During divorce, it is easy to get lost in your emotions and forget that the kids have theirs to process. Maybe you’ve never thought about it, but divorce has profound effects on your kids than you might want to admit. The short-term benefits are often psychological, while the long term spans from the repercussions of divorce.
When partners separate, kids experience separation anxiety and might often withdraw from family and friends. While some kids might have difficulty processing the situation, others will find it emotionally draining and confusing.
Knowing the side effects of divorce will aid you to better deal with your child. When you know what you’re dealing with, only then can you better face it for the best possible outcome. Here are some of the short-term effects of divorce on children.
Short term effects of divorce
The short-term effects vary depending on the situation and the circumstances leading to the divorce. However, some children are known to exhibit anger or aggression toward peers, siblings, and others in a group.
Most children also direct hostility toward one parent, especially the one who initiated the divorce. They might decide to stop communicating with one parent and even resent them.
Self-centered hostility is also possible, like depression, self-harm, inability to eat, lack of sleep, etc. That is typical of adolescents. When it comes to kids, the outcome can be different as they can regress in behavior like speech and even actions like urinating again in bed or on the floor.
Long Term effects of divorce
After divorce, there are a lot of changes that happen in the life of your kid. First, the separation will cause them to lose daily contact with the other parent, leading their relationship to suffer and sometimes die a horrible death.
Other changes that often follow are a change of school, separation from close friends, grandparents, moving to another city, or something similar. These changes, no doubt, forever impact the life of a kid. Sometimes, even changing them.
Another long-term effect of divorce on the kids is finance. After divorce, they often move into smaller homes than the ones they are used to. The kids are deprived of things or necessities which they are used to, causing them to painfully adjust. This often takes a toll on their academic performance and social life.
How to handle the negative effects
It is easy to forget that you’re not the only one hurting. It is crucial to be aware of your child’s emotional state to better care for them. Negative feelings like loneliness, anger, fear, betrayal, guilt, and resentment will not better serve them. There is no harm in seeking professional support to help overcome these feelings. Go ahead and give us a call, or perhaps fill our form.