Seeing eye to eye with your ex can be quite challenging, and the holiday might be tougher without the right tips up your sleeve. However, co-parenting shouldn’t be a hurdle when you understand not only how to co-parent, but coexist with your ex.
Jokes aside, it is never an easy route, but treating this newfound relationship as a partnership business that involves the well-being of your kids is the best mindset.
Here are a few tips that you can use to have the most fun holiday with your spouse, even though you still resent your ex for what happened in the past.
Talking to your children about the holiday
When it comes to how and who spends time with the kids during the holiday, you need to talk to your children. As long as your kids are old enough to understand, seeking their opinion will ensure you protect their interests and well-being.
Some children might want to stay with one of their parents, probably because it’s closer to their friends. Perhaps they might want to have a split time or indulge in a specific activity during the holiday.
Seeking the opinion of your children will help them gain an understanding of the negotiation process and expectations.
Prepare with your ex ahead of time
To have one of the most incredible holidays with your kids and ex, you might want to ensure that you’re in alignment with everything that will be done. You need to plan ahead of time, and that could entail how much time one has with the kids.
If you’re still on good terms with your ex, that will make co-parenting easier. If reverse becomes the case, putting your differences aside for the benefit of the kids will aid in a smooth relationship.
Split time equally
It may look different for every family, but it is best if both parents have equal holiday experience with their children. However, some factors could make this impossible such as your ex living in another state.
In this situation, the best course of action is to alternate the years and iron out the difference with other holidays.
Co-parenting is never a bed of roses, and there is a need to seek support for a successful holiday. Your kids are the center of attention, and your decisions and actions should be in their best interest.
If you still couldn’t find a way to work with your ex regarding holidays with your kids, perhaps working with a good family attorney will be best. Our attorneys are the best, with years of experience working in divorced couples. If you’re having issues co-parenting during the holiday, give us a call or fill the contact form to get started.