After a divorce, parents often want to maintain an equal and ongoing relationship with their child. Making this arrangement work requires you and your former spouse to make your homes and interactions positive. Sticking to three main points can help you make a 50/50 parenting schedule work.
Make Both Homes Your Child’s Home
No matter where you both live, you should each make your child feel comfortable and safe in your home. Your spouse’s home may be larger or smaller than yours, but that does not mean your child can’t have their own space.
Give your child an area where they can relax, study, and be creative, if possible. You can involve them in the process of choosing paint colors and bedding. If possible, allow them to infuse even more of their personality in that space with wall hangings, curtains, and pillows they chose. They should have items that make them feel like that space belongs to them.
Establish Consistent Rules
You and your ex-partner may parent your child differently. Where one parent is strict about doing homework right after school, another may allow the child some playtime first.
Communicate with your former spouse and your child about the rules in each parent’s house. If these rules differ, talk about how you each want to address that with your child. Make it clear that what works in one parent’s home may not be acceptable behavior in the other.
Whether it’s about rules, schedules, or other activities, you must communicate clearly with your former spouse and your child. Establishing a plan early means fewer problems later, whether with pick-up and drop-off days at school or important appointments.
Older children can take more ownership of their schedules but may still need oversight from the parents. However, with young children especially, communication will help you establish a more comfortable new routine.
Do You Need Help with 50/50 Parenting?
If you want to know more about how 50/50 parenting can work for your family, the Staten Island divorce lawyers at Soren Law Group have the expertise you need. We’ve helped many families adjust to a new life after divorce. We can help yours, too. Call us at 718-815-4500 or contact us online for a consultation.