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Divorce can be life-altering for the couples involved, and even worse when a little child is in the picture. Trying to explain the circumstances to your little one might feel like a gut punch, but the right approach will make the process a lot easier.

It is important to pay attention to what your kids might be feeling, and encourage them to be open and expressive of their emotions. Every divorce is different, and the way families handle this process is different too. However, these suggestions will ensure the process is less painful both for the couples involved and the kids.

1. Remind them that they are loved

When parents don’t move along so well, kids often assume they are to be blamed. Not only do these thoughts take a toll on their self-esteem, they feel unloved and terrible with themselves.

Although divorce isn't easy on you either, it is important to constantly reassure your kids that they are loved. Make them understand that they have nothing to do with what’s happening and that adults sometimes make mistakes, even hurt the people they love.

2. Encourage communication

You don’t need to allow your kids to bottle up their feelings. When you encourage your kids to express themselves, it gives them a sense of empowerment, thereby helping ease their frustration.

If your child is not outspoken or uncomfortable, encourage them to write about it. Let your kids know that it’s okay to voice their disappointment without lashing out in anger. 

3. Argue away from the kids

This is inarguably the hardest thing to do, but it is important to not say bad things about your ex in front of your kids, or to their hearing. You might not know this, but kids are pretty smart to pick up on those things.

If there is a situation where your spouse moved away from home, never try to sugarcoat the situation. Acknowledge what has happened, as it isn’t your responsibility to explain your ex’s behavior. If your kids do ask a question, answer as objective and neutral as possible.

4. Focus on your kid’s life, not yours

It is easy to get lost in your head while trying to navigate through the divorce. However, it is important to pay more attention to your kid’s life. You don’t need to slip into a long explanation of what happened. Spare them the gory details, instead make them understand that sometimes, adults don’t want to live together anymore.

5. Break the news as a couple

When both parents break the news to their kids, this unity helps to show your love and support. Don’t keep the situation a secret, or wait till the last minute to break the ice. If you and your ex can calmly talk to your kids about the situation, it goes a long way to help them deal with the situation a lot better.

Whatever happens, note that working hand in hand with an experienced and licensed divorce attorney will play in your best interest. Feel free to give us a call, or perhaps fill the contact form.


An unhappy marriage can be life draining, making you feel as if you’re stuck in a wall. If such a feeling should continue, you might feel the need to escape from such a relationship, hence turning to divorce or legal separation.

However, we use the term interchangeably, which is wrong, as they are both different terms. When going to court, ensure you use the right terms to describe the situation to protect your interest.

With a family lawyer guiding you every step of the way, you steer away from mistakes that could hurt your interest. So, what are the differences?


Separation simply refers to living apart. In this kind of situation, you don't need to file court papers or appear in court. The law does not require you to live with your spouse, but doing so will affect some of your legal rights, like taxes and special benefits.

Before you divorce or separate from your spouse, it is imperative you work with an experienced family lawyer. Since this is likely your first time, this qualified individual will help you understand the implications of your decisions.

If you decide to separate, you will need to work out certain arrangements like child support, spousal support, and payment of bills. It is often the stage where you work with a mediator to help you come to a mutually beneficial agreement with your spouse.

Take note that the court can help in getting child support and spousal support even without legal separation in place. In the same way, the court can detect custody and visitation without filing for divorce or separation.

When you decide to take that decision to be legally separated, all you have to do is file a petition in the court. What makes legal separation and divorce so similar is that both include custody, visitation, spousal support, child support, and even division of assets.


Divorce, on the other hand, is a court judgment ending a marriage. However, the court requires a ‘legal reason’ for a divorce. Before your divorce is finalized, the court will sort out issues that need addressing, such as child custody, spousal support, asset division, and so on.

The reason most people often opt for legal separation and not divorce is due to their religious beliefs. Married couples can live apart from each other and still remain married, and the law doesn't require any to live with their spouses.

You must speak with an attorney for advice and legal guidance, especially on the differences between separation and divorce. Your attorney will help you prepare a written agreement between you and your spouse. Ready for this journey? Go ahead and give us a call, or perhaps fill our contact form.


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